Best laid plans – SHP023

Ben McAlary on best laid plans - SHP023

Best laid plans, eh?

As some of you might be aware, I’ve been having ongoing issues with my internet connection at home over the past month. Partly a blessing in disguise and partly a huge point of frustration, it means I’m way behind on my interviews and today’s very special guest is stepping in at the (super) last minute.

Who is this very special guest, you may ask? Well, it’s, my lovely husband Ben. Usually when it’s just the two of us hosting an episode we’re answering listener questions, but today I interview him about our journey from stressed-out to slow living.

We also look at the major benefits from his perspective, and how his idea of success and a life well-lived have changed.

As the one who was the driving force behind slowing down, it was interesting for me to hear Ben’s perspective. And undoubtedly, the pressures he feels are different to the ones I’ve felt, so I was curious to hear him talk about the things he fears, as opposed to those that I worry about.

We also give each other a fair amount of crap, so don’t go thinking our relationship is all deep conversations and time spent delving into each other’s innermost thoughts. Lots of fart jokes in this house.

Enjoy today’s episode, and rest assured that next week we’ll be back to guests outside the family and (fingers crossed) I will no longer sound like Tom Waits.

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Cait Flanders on simple money and mindful budgeting – SHP022

Cait Flanders on simple money and mindful budgeting

One of the biggest obstacles many people face when trying to create a slower, simpler life is debt. We want to slow down. We want to leave the rat race behind. But we have this monkey on our backs, and turns out she can be pretty freaking heavy.

It might be student debt. Car loans. Credit cards. Old consolidation debts. A combination of all, or something else altogether. Regardless, having these debts, particularly when we struggle to service them, is a huge weight and a massive impediment to slowing down and making intentional choices in life.

I’ve had enough financial hits and misses in my life to know I am not the go-to person to talk about simplifying and money. But my guest today, Cait Flanders, absolutely is.

I’ve always loved Cait’s honest, in-depth approach to telling her own story so I knew she’d be awesome to chat with.

Over the past 3 years Cait has paid off over $30,000 in consumer debt, adopted minimalism (you’ll find these two are very closely related!) travelled extensively, continued to save significantly for her retirement, and recently quit her full-time job to work as a freelancer.

She’s also completely shifted her ideas on what ‘success’ looks like, put herself on a two-year shopping ban and learnt to value experiences over things, slow over fast and long-term gain over short-term pleasure.

Cait’s got both inspiration and practical advice galore, and I think you’ll walk away from today’s episode feeling motivated to get rid of that monkey once and for all.

Enjoy!

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You’ll Hear About:

  • How tracking her spending made a huge difference in how Cait approached paying off debt
  • Why trusting your gut and using common sense are two of the most overlooked pieces of advice when making big changes
  • Why Cait opted to put more than 55% of her income towards debt repayment during the process of getting out of debt
  • What happened once she’d gotten out of debt (read: lifestyle inflation!)
  • How Cait learnt to find happiness outside her purchases and belongings
  • The lessons she learnt about convenience and the price we pay for it
  • Her approach to slow living now that she is self-employed.

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Kelly Exeter on white space and deliberate inefficiency – SHP021

Kelly Exeter on white space and deliberate inefficiencies - SHP021

A few months ago, Ben was reading a blog post from today’s podcast guest Kelly Exeter. He stopped and looked at me and said, “So…you and Kelly are pretty much the same person?”

And it’s true – we have a very similar world view and her story is incredibly close to my own. I absolutely loved the opportunity to sit down and chat with her about life, family and learning to slow down, because as similar as we are, Kelly’s daily life is significantly different to mine.

After last week’s episode, where we dipped in to the realities of slow living while working full-time, this chat comes at a great time. Kelly and her husband both work full-time so we’re able to talk about how slow living fits in to a family that includes two full-time working parents.

We also talk about the anxiety and depression that forced her to slow down, why she now builds deliberate inefficiencies into her day, the myth of finding work/life balance and the “traffic light system” that allows her to decide whether she’s doing life well over time.

There are so many nuggets of wisdom scattered throughout this episode and I think you’re going to love it.

Enjoy!

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You’ll Hear About:

  • Kelly’s journey from exhausted, stressed and emotionally spent, to intentional and content
  • The importance of white space in our days and lives
  • Why Kelly now builds deliberate inefficiencies into her day and what the benefits are of doing so
  • The impact ego has on our ability to slow down and say no
  • How the desire to be universally liked played into Kelly’s exhaustion, anxiety and depression
  • The myth of work/life balance
  • The traffic light system of analysing how you’re doing life
  • Perfectionism and whether it’s a force for good or bad
  • Finding the non-negotiables in life and living in accordance with them
  • Whether it’s possible for a family with both parents working full time to achieve a slower, simpler way of life.

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How to deal with relationship clutter – SHP020

How to deal with relationship clutter - SHP020

 

First Thursday of the month means it’s time for another hostful episode!

This week we’re taking some more listener questions and trying our best to answer them, and I also talk a little about my decision to stop blogging.

When we recorded this episode I was only a week into my decision to step away from the blog, so it all felt very new and uncertain.

Now, a few weeks later, I can easily say that it’s been such a positive change for me and my family. My mental and physical health has improved and I’m back to regular mindfulness practices. What’s more, I feel lighter. I’m happier. More prone to dancing in the kitchen, making (and laughing at) stupid jokes and gardening with the kids. It’s all good.

Actually, it shocked me to realise just how much those things had slipped in the months leading up to my decision to stop blogging. It was such a gradual shift that I didn’t recognise the changes until I took a break.

I plan on recording an episode of the podcast about the process and the changes I’ve experienced so I won’t spend any more time digging in to it now.

Instead, here’s a look at the questions Ben and I try and answer today:

  • How do you deal with friend or relationship clutter?
  • Is there room in the life of a working mum to pursue slow living? Or is it solely the domain of the single-income family?

Usually I’m excited to share these conversations, but that second question really had me talking in circles. And while I did my best to articulate my thoughts on what is a really complex and highly individual issue, I worry that I left too many things unsaid. But there’s only so much we can fit into a 30-minute conversation! 

I’m really looking forward to getting your thoughts and feedback on this one, so please feel free to leave your comments below. 

Enjoy!

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Rhonda Hetzel on living a simple life – SHP019

Episode 19 with Rhonda Hetzel - The Slow Home Podcast

I have been excitedly sitting on today’s episode for over a month now and am so stoked to finally share it with you!

In this episode I chat with Rhonda Hetzel, the much-loved godmother of slow, simple living in both Australia and around the world.

Rhonda is the author of two hugely popular books on creating a slower, simpler home and has an incredible amount of wisdom to share. We look at her personal journey and talk about those first years as she started to shift her family’s lifestyle away from excessive consumption, busy-ness and stress. We also dig into her advice for those of us just beginning the process.

It was really fascinating to look back at Rhonda’s story, because when we see someone who is living their slow dream, it’s hard to imagine they ever lived in a different way. I loved how open Rhonda was to sharing her journey and personally learnt a lot about the power of simply being patient with the process.

The truth is, we all need to start somewhere, and if you’re looking for some gentle encouragement on your own slow living journey, this the the perfect place to begin.

Enjoy!

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